PAY TODAY OR LAYAWAY

The Christmas buying season is here even earlier this year.  We're looking forward to Thanksgiving but the stores already have their sights on maximizing their Christmas bottom line.  Holiday sales are expected to rise 4.1 percent this year.

It seems that our kids just went back to school and the leaves are still on the trees, but the major department stores have already begun their layaway service.  In fact WalMart and Toy “r” Us began a full month earlier this year.

Layaway is a good tool to help you with your shopping and budget.  Using layaway has several advantages – helps you avoid impulse buying, forces you to budget and helps you to avoid getting into trouble with credit card debt.  You can do your own layaway at home with your kids.

In MONEY DOESN'T GROW ON TREES, I teach my Four-Jar Budget System which is saving and budgeting for kids.  Allowance money is divided among the four jars: Charity, Quick Cash, Medium-Term Savings and Long-Term Savings.

Medium-Term Savings is actually layaway at home.  It teaches deferred gratification.  Help your child make a goal to save for.  Go window-shopping at your favorite department store or on the internet.  The age of the child should determine how long the saving should take.  The older the child the more ambitious the goal. Yes, you're teaching delayed gratification, but you're also teaching gratification -   three weeks is a long time to a toddler.  It's a good idea to print out a picture of the item being saved for and attach it to the Medium-Term Savings Jar as an incentive.

When my kids were young we used this method.  You may be surprised to find out how different your kids are from one another.  My son decided he wanted a Walkman – the prehistoric ancestor to the iPod.  My daughter had her sights on a special pair of designer jeans – some of you might be old enough to remember all those commercials  with Brooke Shields – those jeans were all the rage.  

Both kids were certain they knew what they wanted and were patient enough to save up but a funny thing happened along the way.  My son never wavered.  He knew he wanted that Walkman and nothing was going to stop him.  After a few weeks of saving, those must-have jeans no longer seemed so must-have to her.  She decided – and it was her decision – that a pair of regular jeans would be just great.  The logo on the rear pocket wasn't as attractive as it had been.

They both learned valuable lessons.  My son treasured his Walkman for years.  In fact, he took amazing care of it.  My daughter discovered that it might not be so important to have the most expensive item just because it's the trendiest.

As with all good tools you need to do your homework in order to use in-store layaway safely and correctly.  Make sure you read the fine print before you begin.  Putting an item on layaway involves getting into a contract with the store.  Read the rules, payment schedule and fees.  Some stores have eliminated up-front fees.  Others even offer a bonus gift card when your order is paid for. Make sure you really want to buy an item before putting it on layaway.

If you decided not to purchase an item, fees can be costly.  For consumers who don't pay on time or decide to back out, money will be lost [wasted].  Not only will you not get your merchandise, you also don't get your service fees back.  In many cases there is also a cancellation fee.  You will get back any payments you made minus the fees – in the form of a store credit.

Layaway at home or layaway at your favorite stores, it's going to be a long shopping season.  I want you to stay financially healthy.  If the stores are already trying lure your dollars away from you, it is certainly time to make your holiday budget.  After you make your own budget be sure to help your kids with theirs.  Be honest with your budget and be sure to stick to it.  Don't go into debt in the “spirit” of giving.

TEACH YOUR CHILD THE “WHY” OF SAVING

We have a very low success rate of saving in the United States.  According to the Wall Street Journal, savings fell to 3.6 percent of personal income in the first quarter of this year.  We have to start teaching our children about saving when they are young.  The key is to make saving a habit and I start these lessons when a child is as young as 3 years-old.

Begin by explaining to your children that we save in order to get things we want in the future, but also to get things we will need in the future.  It's difficult to think about the future when you're young because most children think of the future as next week, after dinner or five minutes from now. A three year-old is not going to understand the concept of long-term saving, neither is a ten year-old.

In “Money Doesn't Grow on Trees” I explain that saving means putting something away in a safe place to be used, if necessary, at another time.  I suggest having your kids make a list of things you can save besides money.  Squirrels save nuts to eat during winter; most of us save empty bottles and cans for recycling.

In my Allowance System for Children it is a rule that they save some of their money for long-term.  With your help, they have to decide what they are saving for.  I like to suggest saving for college. A good savings plan begins with setting goals.  Talk to your children about what some of their longer term goals could be: a house, a car, other large-ticket items.  Explain that it takes planning and unless you think about these expensive items when you are younger, you probably won't have the money to obtain them later on.

Explain that a goal should be realistic and obtainable.  If you know that you and your children will never be able to save enough for a private college, don't set that as a goal.  The goal should be state school tuition but acknowledge the possibility that your child could get a scholarship to that private university.

Remember, at this point, they don't have to plan out their entire life but it is important to set aside money each month.  Financial planners recommend putting aside 10-15 percent  of one's net pay for savings.  The point is to create this habit of saving while the children are young and “pay yourself first”.  That means putting your own money aside each time your receive it for your savings goals.  Explain what college costs today and what they could be when they are actually ready to go.  Make sure they understand how prices rise.  They need to understand real budgets, real money issues and what it will take to save for real goals.

TEENS AND JOBS

Now that kids are back in school, many teens will be thinking of getting a part-time job to help  supplement their allowance or to save for a car. Because of economic conditions, for some families,  there may be no choice but for the child to contribute to the household income if possible.  While I am a strong advocate of teens working a full-time summer job and even some weekend work during the school year, I don't believe that an after-school job is a good idea. Parents need to help your children balance work, school and time off.

Let's talk about the principles of of a budget but instead of money, apply them to time allocation.

Sleep is the foundation upon which our mental and physical health are built. Nobody gets enough sleep these days but teenagers especially need their sleep.  According to a National Sleep Foundation study on teens and sleep, teens need 8.5 to 9.25 hours a night.  This means that sleep time is budgeted as a “fixed” time allocation. School hours are also non-negotiable.  Your kids have to go to school.  They must not miss days or cut classes because of the demands of a job.

Homework, extracurricular activities and household responsibilities can be variable time allocations but they have to be counted realistically.  Make sure you budget enough time as these can't be shortchanged.

Time off means free time.  This is time just for the teen which doesn't have to be accounted for.  Everyone deserves a certain amount of “down time” whether it's time to take a bike ride or read a teen magazine.  How the time is used is up to the teen but it must be included in the budget.

If you add all this required time it doesn't leave much left for an after-school job.

Successfully managing their school time should be the main focus for our teens because the more education our children complete, the higher their lifetime average earnings will be.  This is true for both boys and girls but boys are more vulnerable.  According to the Manhattan Institute for Policy Research, 72 percent of girls compared to only 65 percent of boys graduate high school.

We know that work is good and healthy but it is not always good for our teens. If your teen is going work, be involved with your teen in the job choice. Be careful not to take on their responsibilities but it is up to you to discuss safety, training, location and schedule.  The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health reported that an average of 231,000 teenagers under the age of 18 are injured at work each year.

If your child does work, it is up to you to monitor your child's work environment and to keep tabs on school work.  Confirm that grades don't suffer because your child is too tired from working and keep an eye on attendance.  School comes first.

BACK-TO-SCHOOL BUDGETING REFRESHER

It's back-to-school time again and that always means it's also “back-to-spending” time.  This season people are projected to spend nearly $670.  This is a great time to teach your children.  Let's get back-to-basics.  Start by helping them make a spending budget for the two major back-to-school categories of supplies and clothing.

Begin with supplies.  First get a list of all the recommended supplies your children will need for the school year.  “Need” is the important word to focus on.  Give each child a small notebook and show them how to list each item and price.  Ask what supplies they think they will need or want for this year.  Again, they should write down the item and its price.  I recommend that you should pay for all the “needs” and have them pay for their “wants”.

Next, do the same thing with their clothing budget.  The list should be specific, detailing how many of each item they think they will need.  The total cost is likely to surprise you and your child alike.  After getting the totals, you decide the final amounts and prices.  If they say that the “need” three pairs of popular boots at $200 each, you get to say “I'll pay for $40 boots”.  We know this isn't going to be easy but this is a worthwhile lesson.

Your children can now start to understand the dynamics of planning, and most importantly, budgeting.

Teens and Cars: How Not to Drive Yourself Crazy

We all want things we can’t afford, and we basically know that there are various ways to handle the problem:

• We can do without it.
• We can save for it.
• We can find ways to increase our income.
• We can buy now and pay later on some sort of an installment plan that we can or can’t afford.

But what happens if we plan carefully in advance—save up, increase our income, or set up a plan to make payments we can afford—and suddenly we discover that we still can’t afford it?  This is a situation that your teen may easily find themselves in when it’s time to buy a car or pay their share of insurance on a family-owned vehicle. This comes from making plans based on too little information.

Give your teen this quiz before they start the auto-buying process:

1. What are all of the different costs associated with buying a car? How much are they? (Have your teen make a detailed list.)
2. What are all the different costs associated with operating a car? How much are they? (Encourage teens to go on-line to research the answers.)

It’s heart breaking when you’ve seen your teen work hard and save up what they think is enough for a car . . . when they drag you to their computer to show you the ad for that perfect vehicle . . . it's only $6,000.  “I’ve saved the money, so let’s go buy this…now!”

But we all know that your teen will need more than the $6,000. They will also need money for:

• Sales tax
• Registration
• Inspection
• Insurance
• Extras

The extra price tag on all these? That’s for your teen to research, with your coaching.  They may be shocked at the insurance quotes, which vary greatly from state-to-state and even within different regions or locations in each state—not to mention—gender.  For instance, in New Jersey, for a male driver, who is 18-years-old, the average insurance quote is $2,999 or $250 per month versus an 18-year-old female driver at $2,267 or $189 per month.  After your son stops grumbling about the fact that his insurance would be lower if he were a girl—turn this into a “teachable” moment and ask him to think about why a male’s insurance is higher!

Also, I include a trip to the insurance agent before turning over the keys. Since we are parents and most of what we say is heard by our ever-so-smart teens, as “Blah, blah, blah,” let your insurance agent explain liability, collision, personal injury coverage and the facts-of-life if your child is caught speeding or under the influence of drugs and alcohol.  The facts are “sobering” and are more impactful coming from a third party.

If your teen is going to drive the family car, let them research the cost of adding a teen to your insurance policy. I’m a firm believer that they need to pay the extra cost. Make sure this is also on the list of questions for your insurance agent visit. In many states, for instance, the insurance company can cancel your policy after one accident, or even one moving violation, by a teenage driver.

Also, let your teen find out what they can do to reduce the cost of the premiums. This varies from state to state and carrier to carrier, but here are some things that will generally make a considerable difference:

• Have your teen take and pass a driver-training course.
• If your teen is a good student, make sure their grade record is part of the insurance package you give to your carrier. Explain that insurance companies have found that good grades correlate with being more responsible and actuarial tables show that good students get into fewer accidents.
• Put limitations on how much your teen drives the family car—and which car they are allowed to drive. Premiums may be lower if they are driving the older or cheaper car. (Also, if your teen is only allowed to drive occasionally, premiums may be lower.

The next thing teens have to figure out is the ongoing cost of gas, maintenance, and emergencies and how they are going to pay for that. If they are using the car to do chores for you, it’s only fair if you help with the costs—if not, they may be shocked when they spend $50.00  to $100.00 for gas per week!


Stay tuned for my next blog post where I'll show you the “contract” I want you to create with your new driver.  Until then, Happy Motoring! (I know you have a lump in your throat—“Teens and driving” always causes that!)

The Holidays are Here

Our goal is not to repeat the annual gift giving “feeding frenzy” at the holidays. The scene you may remember could have been watching your kids wildly ripping open gifts, hardly looking at each then tearing the next one open. It couldn’t get worse… or could it?  This year, let’s not repeat going into debt the way many people did last year. This holiday season is by far the largest in terms of spending. The total Black Friday spending this year rose 6.6 percent over last year; including online and in-store sales. Online revenue boasted a growth of 24.3 percent over last year. Despite the economy, 2010 spending was an astonishing $135.16 billion, a 5.5 percent increase from 2009. With that trend in mind, 2011 holiday spending is expected to reach an astounding $142.6 billion or more, suggesting we are certainly in a repeat “feeding frenzy.”

It seems that those good ole’ days when gift giving brought a message that “I care about you” are gone.  Wouldn’t you love to instill—or re-instill-- those traditional values in your children?  If you do, you can start by using some of these helpful tips.

First, make sure everyone in the family has a gift-planning calendar. Since you already know the dates of Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanza or any other holidays on which your family exchanges gifts, it will be simple to get started creating a calendar. Next, mark birthdays, anniversaries, graduations or any other special events that will require a gift. Your children will want to include their friends’ birthdays, too.

But that is just a start. Knowing when a birthday is coming up is important…but knowing when to begin to save for the gift is just as important.  A “start saving” date should be marked on everyone’s calendar…or in the desktop organizer on the family computer.

Make sure your kids understand the importance of appropriate giving.  An over generous gift can indicate too much need for approval or control, it can embarrass the recipient or it can signal the beginning of unhealthy materialistic competition.

You can explain to kids that parents and grandparents love all gifts equally, no matter how much has been spent on it. And suggest that the kids “pool” their resources to buy one gift for special relatives, each child contributing as much as they can afford based on a percentage of their allowance.

Once your children know how much they’re going to be spending on gifts, they can begin to make a saving schedule.  By dividing the cost of a gift by the number of weeks needed to save for the purchase will help them determine when they should begin to save.  Then they can mark the date on the calendar and set their saving plan in motion.

For those very important gifts–perhaps parents or grandparents–you may want to help your kids get that special gift.  The kids should continue to work towards their goal of saving the money needed to buy something special for Grammy and Grandpa but you can help them with a matching fund. In other words, if they’ve saved diligently according to the saving schedule they’ve set up, you’ll match the total.

Gift giving is mostly about “thoughtfulness.” A gift says, “I care.” It comes through most eloquently by how much thought has gone into the gift’s selection not its price.

And don’t forget you don’t have to spend money on every gift. In fact, you shouldn’t. Some gifts shouldn’t be “money-based.”  Help your children to give “gift vouchers” for something.  And that could be the best gift of all.

“Gift vouchers” can be geared to the recipient’s interests.  Like cleaning golf balls for your favorite golfer, cooking a vegetarian meal for the family vegan or cataloging a collection of baseball cards for your baseball lover.

“Gift vouchers” can be redeemed for running errands to the store, for yard work or for babysitting. One of the best ones was suggested by my own children.  It’s called a “No Fighting Zone” voucher, good for three fights. If my children started squabbling, I pulled out the voucher and the kids had to stop fighting. (P.S… This actually works!)
Let your kids come up with their own ideas for giving, just remember: “I care” and “I love you” never comes with a price tag.

How to Talk to Your Kids About Your Financial Woes

Come clean with your older kids.  Don’t pretend everything is okay if it isn’t.

If they all of a sudden see Mom or Dad (or both) moping around the house screaming or crying don’t just say, “Everything’s fine”.  They might think the worst; that you are sick.  Explain that things change in life and that times are tough and you got laid off.  It’s not your fault, things happen beyond your control.  Explain that you are looking for a job and that you’ll keep the kids posted.  You may not have all the answers today.  You may even have to move, but that is not the end of the world.

You will also have to cut back on expenses and you can even ask them to come up with ideas.  They will feel better if they are part of the solution.  You want your kids to understand that life and circumstances are constantly changing.  Allow them to be disappointed for awhile, but stress that you are not your “stuff”, and that you are a family with values.  It’s a great time to get back to basics and let the kids really see who you are.

Off To College: Credit Cards & Budgets

The mere words “off to college” and “credit cards” should give you goose bumps.  The scary news is that half of all college kids have at least four credit cards and will graduate with over $4,000 of credit card debt and $20,000 in student loan debt.  Not a great way to start out their career life!  This debt load means that 18-24 year-olds will spend almost 30% of their monthly income solely on debt repayment.
 
Now for the good news!  Most college students admit they need more financial management education — so teach them!  The beginning of any financial arrangement is always a budget.  Simply, a budget is a description of “Money In” and “Money Out.”  As a parent, you have some control over the “Money In,” especially if you’re supplying it.  But in most cases, your child will control spending the “Money Out.”  Your overall goal is to start having “Money Management” become a real life skill.  If you haven’t started money lessons yet, it’s never too late.  I call this process my “No Magic Money Log”.

It’s no magic where your money went – you spent it.  Have your kids carry file cards to write down everything they’ve spent money on.  This way, they can really decide what they “need” as opposed to what they just “want”.  Go through the list with your student and build a real budget.  It should include things such as phones, Internet, food, entertainment, and transportation.  Books and clothes may be one-time expenses and may not reoccur during the semester.  Let them report their budget to you on a monthly basis.  The more responsibility they have the more they’ll own their budget…and hopefully this will help you get a good night sleep.

Back-to-School Budgeting

Back-to-School means “back-to-spending.” But suppose you could turn it into Back-to-Basics? This is a great time of year to teach your children about budgeting. Start by helping them make a spending budget for the two major Back-to-School categories: supplies and clothing. 

Start with supplies. The first step is to get a list of all the recommended supplies your children will need for the school year. “Need” is the operative word here. Give each child a small notebook and show them how to list each item and put its price next to it. Ask what supplies they think they’ll need or want for this year. Again, they should write down the item and its price.  You can see where we’re going with this. I recommend that you agree to pay for all the “needs” and have them agree to pay for their “wants.”

Next, do the same thing with their clothing budget. Their list should be specific, detailing how many of each item they think they’ll need. You may be surprised at the total cost; and hopefully, they will be as well.  After getting the totals, you decide the final amounts and prices. If they think that they “need” five pairs of designer jeans at $150 a pop, you get to say, “No, I’ll pay for the $35 pair.”  This approach will not be an easy one, but it is well worth it.

Your children can now start to understand the dynamics of planning and, most importantly, budgeting.