PAY TODAY OR LAYAWAY

The Christmas buying season is here even earlier this year.  We're looking forward to Thanksgiving but the stores already have their sights on maximizing their Christmas bottom line.  Holiday sales are expected to rise 4.1 percent this year.

It seems that our kids just went back to school and the leaves are still on the trees, but the major department stores have already begun their layaway service.  In fact WalMart and Toy “r” Us began a full month earlier this year.

Layaway is a good tool to help you with your shopping and budget.  Using layaway has several advantages – helps you avoid impulse buying, forces you to budget and helps you to avoid getting into trouble with credit card debt.  You can do your own layaway at home with your kids.

In MONEY DOESN'T GROW ON TREES, I teach my Four-Jar Budget System which is saving and budgeting for kids.  Allowance money is divided among the four jars: Charity, Quick Cash, Medium-Term Savings and Long-Term Savings.

Medium-Term Savings is actually layaway at home.  It teaches deferred gratification.  Help your child make a goal to save for.  Go window-shopping at your favorite department store or on the internet.  The age of the child should determine how long the saving should take.  The older the child the more ambitious the goal. Yes, you're teaching delayed gratification, but you're also teaching gratification -   three weeks is a long time to a toddler.  It's a good idea to print out a picture of the item being saved for and attach it to the Medium-Term Savings Jar as an incentive.

When my kids were young we used this method.  You may be surprised to find out how different your kids are from one another.  My son decided he wanted a Walkman – the prehistoric ancestor to the iPod.  My daughter had her sights on a special pair of designer jeans – some of you might be old enough to remember all those commercials  with Brooke Shields – those jeans were all the rage.  

Both kids were certain they knew what they wanted and were patient enough to save up but a funny thing happened along the way.  My son never wavered.  He knew he wanted that Walkman and nothing was going to stop him.  After a few weeks of saving, those must-have jeans no longer seemed so must-have to her.  She decided – and it was her decision – that a pair of regular jeans would be just great.  The logo on the rear pocket wasn't as attractive as it had been.

They both learned valuable lessons.  My son treasured his Walkman for years.  In fact, he took amazing care of it.  My daughter discovered that it might not be so important to have the most expensive item just because it's the trendiest.

As with all good tools you need to do your homework in order to use in-store layaway safely and correctly.  Make sure you read the fine print before you begin.  Putting an item on layaway involves getting into a contract with the store.  Read the rules, payment schedule and fees.  Some stores have eliminated up-front fees.  Others even offer a bonus gift card when your order is paid for. Make sure you really want to buy an item before putting it on layaway.

If you decided not to purchase an item, fees can be costly.  For consumers who don't pay on time or decide to back out, money will be lost [wasted].  Not only will you not get your merchandise, you also don't get your service fees back.  In many cases there is also a cancellation fee.  You will get back any payments you made minus the fees – in the form of a store credit.

Layaway at home or layaway at your favorite stores, it's going to be a long shopping season.  I want you to stay financially healthy.  If the stores are already trying lure your dollars away from you, it is certainly time to make your holiday budget.  After you make your own budget be sure to help your kids with theirs.  Be honest with your budget and be sure to stick to it.  Don't go into debt in the “spirit” of giving.

You Don't Know How Lucky You Are!

Charity has to be taught, and shown to kids for them to “Get It”.  Yelling the words, “You don’t know how lucky you are!” can seem educational, but they’re really not.  None of us realize how lucky we are.   


“Giving” refers not just to money, but also to you.  On Christmas morning, I used to take my kids into a local hospital to serve meals to elderly people who had nowhere to go.  My kids “Got It”.  My big revelation came when my son, Rhett, was 8-years-old.  We were in a small bodega in New York City so that he could use some of his “Quick Cash” to buy some Tootsie Roll Pops (I was trying to empower him to make his own choices, and was a little liberal on the sugar choice!). 

He had his pops and his money and was standing in line to pay and in front of him was a homeless woman who had a cup of change and an orange.  She dumped out the coins and the owner of the store told her to put back the orange, because she didn’t have enough money.  As she collected the change, my son watched and interrupted and said, “I have my Quick Cash with me and I’d like to buy you the orange, I just need to put back the pops and start to count out my change again.”  


Every eye in the store turned to this little kid.  The woman thanked him and refused to take his money.  Rhett became insistent, saying “I work for my money and I get to choose how I spend it and I want to buy you this orange.  May I?”  Still she was reluctant, but he persevered.  “Don’t you know the rules?” he said.  “This is my money and I chose to buy you the orange, because someday when I don’t have the money, someone will be there to buy me some food.”  


The air was sucked out of the room and filled with sobbing mothers (me included).  The transaction took place, and Rhett joined me in the back of the store, where I was sobbing, “I’m so proud of you for doing this”.  And he said, “You are not supposed to be proud of me when I’m doing something I’m supposed to do.  You are supposed to be proud of me when I do something that I’m not supposed to do!”  Okay, he was right and, yes, the money lessons work!

Black Friday? It's Putting Most Americans in the "Red".

Maybe we should start calling it Red Friday instead of Black Friday?  From a shoppers budget perspective, it might be the more accurate color, especially when you consider the logic behind the day after Thanksgiving’s unofficial title.

While my adult readers probably have a good idea of the modern history of the Black Friday moniker, my younger readers may not.  So before we delve fully into this week’s blog topic: how holiday shoppers overspend and tips to prevent it, lets get our terms straight, first.

Black Friday – the day after Thanksgiving where many employers give their employees the day off – is typically the busiest or one of the busiest shopping days of the year.  It also marks the unofficial start to the time of year where businesses, especially retailers, rake in most of their yearly profits and are said to be “in the black”.  The “black” refers to the ink used to keep track of money coming in (revenue), money going out (expenses) and what’s left in the end when business is strong: profit.  Red ink, just like when a teacher corrects a homework mistake, is used to show when a business is losing money.  In that case, expenses are greater than revenue.

But for American families, who like any business, must also rely on a budget, their day after Thanksgiving is looking decidedly red. The reason: too many Americans overspend on Black Friday and the holidays in general, some by as much as 30 percent beyond what their budgets would dictate, not to mention the other shopaholic days of the extended weekend, including web-based “cyber” Monday and the growing smartphone-powered so-called “couch commerce” on Thanksgiving day itself. For all the recent lip service given to Americans increasing savings rate following the Great Recession, the truth is our collective self-restraint and fiscal discipline could use some help.

Here are some statistics to put our national spending gluttony in perspective:

• Nearly a third of Americans are expected to spend $700 or more on gifts during the entire holiday season.
• 86 percent of shoppers say they will spend the same or more as last year; only 13 percent plan to spend less.
• The average American household is already saddled with nearly $16,000 in credit card debt and the average college graduate earns their diploma $3,000 in the credit card red.
• Some 12 million Americans are still paying off last year’s holiday gifts this year, based on estimates from 2008 trends.

Next to weight loss, living within and sticking to a budget is often second on families New Year’s resolution lists.  This year, as we close out 2011 and begin 2012, why not make those resolutions stick?  Both weight loss and budgeting require discipline and organization.

First, plan in advance.  Make sure that everyone in the family has a gift-planning calendar.  Of course, you know the dates of Chanukah or Christmas or Kwanzaa or any other holiday on which your family exchanges gifts so these will be easy to mark.  Next, mark birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, or any other special events that will require a gift and overlap the holidays.  Your children will want to include their friends’ birthdays, too.  Even more important, though, now that you know when these dates fall, is to mark a “savings date,” where both parents and children begin to save for their expected purchases.

Just like how a grocery list helps supermarket shoppers stay on task and not be lured by impulse buys, so too can a list help with the holidays.  And remember, while Black Friday does offer some great deals, failure to follow these rules leaves shoppers spending far more than they intended.  If you know yourself to be an easily persuaded shopper, simply avoid Black Friday altogether.  Is there really a need to be clamoring into department stores and electronic stores, trampling over people for more “toys?”

I think not.

Together lets make Black Friday – and not Red Friday – the appropriate day after Thanksgiving title for us all!

How to Make a Money-Smart Kid Consumer

With the holidays right around the corner and shopping on everyone's mind, why not teach your kids a bit about making a "smart" buy decision.  Remember the “blind taste test” we used to do?  Why not do the same with your kids.

For instance, pick a generic cereal and a high-priced brand.  Let the kids blindfold family members and ask them to taste each and give opinions.  You can try this with lots of products (but don’t make the toilet paper test a blindfolded family activity).

You can also test organic or recycled products.  As a family, you may decide to spring for some organic/recycled products that you’ll be willing to pay more for because they may taste better and be better for you and the environment.  For more information go to www.childrensfinancialnetwork.com or eco-effect.net.