Teens and Cars: How Not to Drive Yourself Crazy

We all want things we can’t afford, and we basically know that there are various ways to handle the problem:

• We can do without it.
• We can save for it.
• We can find ways to increase our income.
• We can buy now and pay later on some sort of an installment plan that we can or can’t afford.

But what happens if we plan carefully in advance—save up, increase our income, or set up a plan to make payments we can afford—and suddenly we discover that we still can’t afford it?  This is a situation that your teen may easily find themselves in when it’s time to buy a car or pay their share of insurance on a family-owned vehicle. This comes from making plans based on too little information.

Give your teen this quiz before they start the auto-buying process:

1. What are all of the different costs associated with buying a car? How much are they? (Have your teen make a detailed list.)
2. What are all the different costs associated with operating a car? How much are they? (Encourage teens to go on-line to research the answers.)

It’s heart breaking when you’ve seen your teen work hard and save up what they think is enough for a car . . . when they drag you to their computer to show you the ad for that perfect vehicle . . . it's only $6,000.  “I’ve saved the money, so let’s go buy this…now!”

But we all know that your teen will need more than the $6,000. They will also need money for:

• Sales tax
• Registration
• Inspection
• Insurance
• Extras

The extra price tag on all these? That’s for your teen to research, with your coaching.  They may be shocked at the insurance quotes, which vary greatly from state-to-state and even within different regions or locations in each state—not to mention—gender.  For instance, in New Jersey, for a male driver, who is 18-years-old, the average insurance quote is $2,999 or $250 per month versus an 18-year-old female driver at $2,267 or $189 per month.  After your son stops grumbling about the fact that his insurance would be lower if he were a girl—turn this into a “teachable” moment and ask him to think about why a male’s insurance is higher!

Also, I include a trip to the insurance agent before turning over the keys. Since we are parents and most of what we say is heard by our ever-so-smart teens, as “Blah, blah, blah,” let your insurance agent explain liability, collision, personal injury coverage and the facts-of-life if your child is caught speeding or under the influence of drugs and alcohol.  The facts are “sobering” and are more impactful coming from a third party.

If your teen is going to drive the family car, let them research the cost of adding a teen to your insurance policy. I’m a firm believer that they need to pay the extra cost. Make sure this is also on the list of questions for your insurance agent visit. In many states, for instance, the insurance company can cancel your policy after one accident, or even one moving violation, by a teenage driver.

Also, let your teen find out what they can do to reduce the cost of the premiums. This varies from state to state and carrier to carrier, but here are some things that will generally make a considerable difference:

• Have your teen take and pass a driver-training course.
• If your teen is a good student, make sure their grade record is part of the insurance package you give to your carrier. Explain that insurance companies have found that good grades correlate with being more responsible and actuarial tables show that good students get into fewer accidents.
• Put limitations on how much your teen drives the family car—and which car they are allowed to drive. Premiums may be lower if they are driving the older or cheaper car. (Also, if your teen is only allowed to drive occasionally, premiums may be lower.

The next thing teens have to figure out is the ongoing cost of gas, maintenance, and emergencies and how they are going to pay for that. If they are using the car to do chores for you, it’s only fair if you help with the costs—if not, they may be shocked when they spend $50.00  to $100.00 for gas per week!


Stay tuned for my next blog post where I'll show you the “contract” I want you to create with your new driver.  Until then, Happy Motoring! (I know you have a lump in your throat—“Teens and driving” always causes that!)

Teens and Summer Jobs

Has your teen found a summer job yet, because it’s going to be hard to find one.  In fact, last year, only 1 in 4 teens had summer jobs, the lowest on record, and this summer may be just as tough.  

Half of all teens are in school over the summer doing remedial or prep work for college. The recession has also changed the landscape. Now, teens are competing with grandparents, who are also vying for the same summer jobs.

What should your teen do?  They should research companies that hire teens: camps, day care, retail stores, restaurants, tennis and swim clubs, libraries, parks, resorts—you get the picture.

Have your teen look into internships with corporations, who are interviewing now.  Also volunteer work is great.

Help your teen to create a simple resume and a cover letter.  Work with them to hone their interviewing skills. They should go prepared to each interview with a list of intelligent questions that demonstrate their knowledge of the job and why they are perfect the candidate.

They can search summer job opportunities online and also visit prospective employers in person.  They can also be creative and use their special talents by giving lessons to neighborhood kids.

The earlier they start, the more options they’ll have.

What Parents Need to Tell A Child About Their Own Finances: Where There’s a “Will”, There’s A Way!

In my mother’s day, and my grandmother’s time before that, a family discussion on the subject of sex or money was not considered “appropriate" dinner conversation. (Of course, that was also a time when family had dinner together!) Both were viewed by them to be intimate, private topics, and there is evidence to suggest that neither subject was discussed much even between husbands and wives!

Today, social morals have been relaxed (in some families) and sex is even a required topic of discussion within many families. The great life-threatening dangers that can come from imprudent or unprotected sex have forced most parents out of Victorian age restraints.

Oddly enough, the subject of money still has not been equally discussed, yet I contend that the imprudent or unprotected spending have their own serious consequences: over extension of credit, personal bankruptcy, and, at the extreme, homelessness, these are some of the unfortunate results that are on the rise.

Are you prepared to discuss your own finances with your child?  “Too personal”, or “none of their business?”  No parent cares to pass along information about him or herself that can be used to perhaps be embarrassing later on. (That’s why we discourage Mom from displaying those cute age-2 bathtub shots to our boyfriend!)

I don’t think Junior needs to know that you bounced seven checks in a day, or that you were denied a mortgage four times before getting approved. However, there is some financial information about yourself that an older child, and certainly a teen, does need to be aware of for their own benefit.

Start with your will.  You note I said your will.  If you have kids and you don’t have one – stop reading my blog and go to: www.nolo.com.  Make your will today with maximum ease and minimum cost using Nolo's Online Will.  Just log in, answer questions about yourself and your property, and print!  Or make your will with Quicken WillMaker Plus, software that comes with dozens of other useful documents such as Power of Attorney and Health Care Directive.  Not only does a will outline what happens to your financial assets and designate an executor (the person who sees that the instructions in a will are carried out), it also lays out (or should) what you want to happen with your children until they are old enough to be on their own.

It’s shocking to me to learn that despite the obvious importance of having a will, 55% of all Americans die without one.

I’m ok with you going onto sites to see what you want in your will – but I’m still a believer in getting a lawyer to actually draw one up. It’s not worth getting it wrong.

Some of the things to think about are:

1. Who do you trust to be the executor?
2. Who will get custody or guardianship of your kids?  By the way, make sure you have communicated your intentions to that person.  A surprise is not a good thing.
3. How will that child be provided for financially?  Have you made sure your guardian will also be provided for? Raising a child is expensive, you don’t want to burden that guardian.
4. How are your assets to be divided up?  Who gets what?  Remember, you need to review your will every 5 years or when something changes, like a new child, a death, divorce, etc.

The reason a discussion with your child about your will is so valuable is that it gives you the chance to assure your youngster that he or she will be taken care of if something happens to your spouse/partner. Don’t think that your 4 or 5 year old hasn’t thought of this. They are exposed to Bambi, Lion King, Cinderella – what happened to their parents? Hansel and Gretel still freaks me out!

Give your kids the assurances that are age appropriate, make sure they feel secure and don’t think they’ll end up in an orphanage begging for porridge.

Never A Borrower Or Lender, Be ( especially if you are a child!)

An issue facing kids is borrowing and lending. Just as some societies distinguish themselves from the rest of the world by setting up elaborate barter systems, an important element of preteen and teenage custom is borrowing and lending money. You’re not going to change that. But you can discuss it and channel it before it becomes a problem.

One step toward helping your children understand borrowing and lending is to incorporate loans into the Allowance Jar System you’re using. Occasionally, your child will want to buy something that’s “on sale” right now or that it may be a “limited-time opportunity,” like spending when on vacation. The purchase price may not be out of range of their budget – they could easily afford it with four weeks of Medium-Term Savings – but they don’t have the ready cash right now.

But if you loan them the money to buy it, are you caving in and abandoning your system? Certainly not. You can work out a repayment schedule, with just a small rate of interest. After all, you’re not trying to make money off your kids. The interest payment can go into a family vacation fund, for instance. The point is that you want your kids to understand how borrowing and lending work. Charge them a flat interest of 10 cents per week on every dollar borrowed. They will start to feel the bite of interest, and that’s the point.

You can also use borrowing and lending situations to teach your children about establishing credit. If your child repays the loan on time they’ll be eligible for another, perhaps larger loan later. If not…they become a credit risk and won’t be eligible for another loan until they’ve proven their responsibility to your satisfaction.

When it comes to putting these lessons into practice outside the family, one rule changes right away. If your kids are loaning money to a friend, they shouldn’t charge interest. It’s a bad precedent to set between teenage friends. The most important thing to teach your child is that money lending is an exchange that has rules. If they’re going to lend money to a friend there should be a clearly defined repayment schedule. Your teen should discuss with the borrowing friend:  (1) How much money they want to borrow; (2) What the money is for; and (3) When the loan will be repaid.

More importantly, your young lender should know that this transaction is about “money” not “friendship.” The friend may not repay the loan on schedule, for instance. Explain that someone can be your good friend, yet still be irresponsible with money. With a contract (even a verbal contract), clearly understood by both parties, if a borrower fails to keep up their end of the deal, it doesn’t have to spell the end of a friendship. Your teenage lender should make it clear to their friend that there surely won’t be anymore loans available to them. However, another important lesson every lender should know in advance is that they should never lend more than they can afford to lose. Tough lessons, but real life!

Should a Teen Word During The School Year?

In some families, there is not an economic choice.  Many teens work after school or during the summer because they must.  I am an advocate of teens working; however, you need to help your children balance work, school, and time off.  Beyond that, I don’t believe it’s a good idea for a teen to have an after-school job during the school year.

A full-time summer job; however, is a good thing, as is work on weekends during the school year.  A good job for teens is one where they will learn something of value.  At these jobs, teens take responsibility or gain knowledge.  Often, some of the best jobs are ones that pay nothing.  I’m referring of course to volunteer jobs.  They frequently involve a lot more responsibility and provide a chance to really make a difference.  Some can even help teens deal better with problems at home.  Kids who want to make this kind of positive impact on society deserve our support.  Perhaps consider an allowance that’s half of what they could make at the sort of job they would get if they hadn’t made this commitment.  Be involved with your teen in choosing a job but be careful not to take on responsibility that should be theirs.  Discuss safety, training, location, schedules, and even the social status factor.  Have your teen do research to ensure that they’ve picked the right job for themselves and the time they have available to work.  But remember, school comes first.