TEENS AND JOBS

Now that kids are back in school, many teens will be thinking of getting a part-time job to help  supplement their allowance or to save for a car. Because of economic conditions, for some families,  there may be no choice but for the child to contribute to the household income if possible.  While I am a strong advocate of teens working a full-time summer job and even some weekend work during the school year, I don't believe that an after-school job is a good idea. Parents need to help your children balance work, school and time off.

Let's talk about the principles of of a budget but instead of money, apply them to time allocation.

Sleep is the foundation upon which our mental and physical health are built. Nobody gets enough sleep these days but teenagers especially need their sleep.  According to a National Sleep Foundation study on teens and sleep, teens need 8.5 to 9.25 hours a night.  This means that sleep time is budgeted as a “fixed” time allocation. School hours are also non-negotiable.  Your kids have to go to school.  They must not miss days or cut classes because of the demands of a job.

Homework, extracurricular activities and household responsibilities can be variable time allocations but they have to be counted realistically.  Make sure you budget enough time as these can't be shortchanged.

Time off means free time.  This is time just for the teen which doesn't have to be accounted for.  Everyone deserves a certain amount of “down time” whether it's time to take a bike ride or read a teen magazine.  How the time is used is up to the teen but it must be included in the budget.

If you add all this required time it doesn't leave much left for an after-school job.

Successfully managing their school time should be the main focus for our teens because the more education our children complete, the higher their lifetime average earnings will be.  This is true for both boys and girls but boys are more vulnerable.  According to the Manhattan Institute for Policy Research, 72 percent of girls compared to only 65 percent of boys graduate high school.

We know that work is good and healthy but it is not always good for our teens. If your teen is going work, be involved with your teen in the job choice. Be careful not to take on their responsibilities but it is up to you to discuss safety, training, location and schedule.  The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health reported that an average of 231,000 teenagers under the age of 18 are injured at work each year.

If your child does work, it is up to you to monitor your child's work environment and to keep tabs on school work.  Confirm that grades don't suffer because your child is too tired from working and keep an eye on attendance.  School comes first.

What Parents Need to Tell A Child About Their Own Finances: Where There’s a “Will”, There’s A Way!

In my mother’s day, and my grandmother’s time before that, a family discussion on the subject of sex or money was not considered “appropriate" dinner conversation. (Of course, that was also a time when family had dinner together!) Both were viewed by them to be intimate, private topics, and there is evidence to suggest that neither subject was discussed much even between husbands and wives!

Today, social morals have been relaxed (in some families) and sex is even a required topic of discussion within many families. The great life-threatening dangers that can come from imprudent or unprotected sex have forced most parents out of Victorian age restraints.

Oddly enough, the subject of money still has not been equally discussed, yet I contend that the imprudent or unprotected spending have their own serious consequences: over extension of credit, personal bankruptcy, and, at the extreme, homelessness, these are some of the unfortunate results that are on the rise.

Are you prepared to discuss your own finances with your child?  “Too personal”, or “none of their business?”  No parent cares to pass along information about him or herself that can be used to perhaps be embarrassing later on. (That’s why we discourage Mom from displaying those cute age-2 bathtub shots to our boyfriend!)

I don’t think Junior needs to know that you bounced seven checks in a day, or that you were denied a mortgage four times before getting approved. However, there is some financial information about yourself that an older child, and certainly a teen, does need to be aware of for their own benefit.

Start with your will.  You note I said your will.  If you have kids and you don’t have one – stop reading my blog and go to: www.nolo.com.  Make your will today with maximum ease and minimum cost using Nolo's Online Will.  Just log in, answer questions about yourself and your property, and print!  Or make your will with Quicken WillMaker Plus, software that comes with dozens of other useful documents such as Power of Attorney and Health Care Directive.  Not only does a will outline what happens to your financial assets and designate an executor (the person who sees that the instructions in a will are carried out), it also lays out (or should) what you want to happen with your children until they are old enough to be on their own.

It’s shocking to me to learn that despite the obvious importance of having a will, 55% of all Americans die without one.

I’m ok with you going onto sites to see what you want in your will – but I’m still a believer in getting a lawyer to actually draw one up. It’s not worth getting it wrong.

Some of the things to think about are:

1. Who do you trust to be the executor?
2. Who will get custody or guardianship of your kids?  By the way, make sure you have communicated your intentions to that person.  A surprise is not a good thing.
3. How will that child be provided for financially?  Have you made sure your guardian will also be provided for? Raising a child is expensive, you don’t want to burden that guardian.
4. How are your assets to be divided up?  Who gets what?  Remember, you need to review your will every 5 years or when something changes, like a new child, a death, divorce, etc.

The reason a discussion with your child about your will is so valuable is that it gives you the chance to assure your youngster that he or she will be taken care of if something happens to your spouse/partner. Don’t think that your 4 or 5 year old hasn’t thought of this. They are exposed to Bambi, Lion King, Cinderella – what happened to their parents? Hansel and Gretel still freaks me out!

Give your kids the assurances that are age appropriate, make sure they feel secure and don’t think they’ll end up in an orphanage begging for porridge.